Bodyhair. To shave, or not to shave?

That is the question? Are you going against your own principles as a feminist if you shave your body hair? Fuck no. I think it’s important to do what you want to do, what makes you feel comfortable, and happy and awesome. But I do think it’s important to think about the things that you do, and how your choices will affect the interaction of the world that you find yourself surrounded by.

It’s true that there are more pressing issues in the world, than whether or not your shave your legs. (Can I get an “amen!”) That’s not to say that it isn’t an important way to connect the dots on the place of women in society. How people seem to feel some form of ownership over your body, so much so that your autonomy to go against the norm bothers them.

I began writing this blog, due to a friend posting this article by Alicen Grey. Grey says:

“I hope one day you grow your leg hair out. And your underarm hair, too. And whatever other hair you’ve been coerced into removing regularly. I hope you get to know your hairs, with all their different lengths, textures and colors.

I hope you let them growgrowgrow, until the uncomfortable prickliness softens up. Until you develop the habit of rubbing your legs when you need comfort. Until it feels weirder to be hairless than not. Until you find the idea of shaving absolutely ludicrous. Until you hear all the anti-hair messages in the movies and on TV and from friends and family and strangers, as utter nonsense.

I hope you let so much time pass, that you forget what it ever felt like to hate your body hair.”

I can relate to the feeling of it feelings weird to shave your leg/armpit hair, but I still occasionally shave to varying degrees. It is funny when you shave after having your full hair for a while, because it makes your legs feel so skinny and kind of weirdly naked.

As far as body hair goes, I think of that more like a haircut, or hairstyle, and that you can do whatever the hell you want. So many people seem to be bothered by the personal choices of others when those others go against what society has been sold.

I honestly hate buying razors because I don’t like supporting the hair removal industry. I do though on occasion. I don’t think that women should have such pressure put on them to have the appearance that is prescribed by corporate motivations and adopted by mainstream society.

I have had people say things to me about my leg hair, my armpit hair, and even been fired for shaving my head (by a bald man). People, if you are going to comment on someone else’s body, it better be a neutral factual statement or a fucking compliment. Because if it is ANYTHING ELSE you are a total fucking asshole.

Things people have said to me about my body hair:

“Ouch” – guy I was “dating” when he touched my stubbly legs.

“You’re disgusting” – my sister

“You look like the 1960s” – another S.O.

“That shit wouldn’t fly in Miami” – Cafe Owner, acquaintance in Jamaica.

“You need a trim. Don’t you think it’s getting a little long?” – Best friend who is supposedly a very open person about these sorts of things, pertaining to my underarm hair.

“What is wrong with you? Why don’t you shave your legs?” – Brother. I asked him if it really bothered him that much.

People if other folks body hair bothers you, you have to ask yourself why. “Because it’s disgusting” is not a real answer. Why do you think it’s disgusting? Because you have been sold an aesthetic. It’s fine for you to think it “looks better” to be hairless, but it is still a choice to do that. It is not mandatory. At least it shouldn’t be. I’m sure if you have certain jobs, they probably want to force you into a dress code that includes your personal grooming to be upheld to their standards. Which is probably like everyone else’s.

 

Our Reality and The Dream World

We are so used to seeing our reality as it is and believing it. Not questioning it, and just accepting it as true. So much so that when it happens in our dreams and all sorts of things are going crazy, we just keep on accepting it and dealing with it the best we can.

I can’t say off the top of my head if the craziest things that have ever happened to me have been in dreams or reality.

I guess it’s fair to say, that both provide a lot of excitement, whether it be positive or negative for us.

I used to try lucid dreaming and part of that training is to always question your reality. You have to do a few things in order to understand if you are in a dream or if you are awake. In dreams you can’t read digital clocks, or fine print very well, you can’t switch lights on and off. It’s weird, but it’s true. I have tried to switch lights on and of in dreams repeatedly, and you can’t do it. (Try it!)

The thing is to be able to try it you have to do it all the time. In your waking life and in your dreaming life. Do it when you are awake so much so that it engrains into you, like a habit, or trait. And then you can realize when you are dreaming, and become conscious in your dream.

Now, that doesn’t guarantee that you will remember what you do from that point on, or that you won’t get so excited about being conscious in your dream, that you actually wake yourself up, but it’s a good start. And from there you just practice, and you write. You keep a journal next to your bed, and you write it down as soon as you wake up from the dream. Some people even set a timer or alarm, to wake them up. I think the optimal time is

Sense of Accomplishment

Happy 4:20am to everyone sharing the central time zone with me now.

From anything, and everything that I have done with my life, High Dias has to be amongst the greatest. It continues to evolve, fluidly.

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I continue to strive for the growth and evolution of myself and High Dias. It has pushed me in every possible way. I am doing things I wouldn’t normally do. I am learning and growing new skills.

I hope you like it!

I’m flying to Portland, OR tomorrow. Extra excited for the amazing time we are about to have on the road. You can check out adventures with Amory Jane here.

Stay tuned for updates! I feel like writing again!

Love you all!
Amari